In marriage counseling it is understood that a Domineering personality is a disposition that propels an individual to have total control through the enforcement of over powering will. A marriage counselor recognises that a domineering person can be very hard to cohabitate with, as a need to control can be stifling to the freedom of the partner. A domineering personality is constituted through an extreme fear of one's own internal chaos, which is manifested by a desire to control the surrounding. The internal chaos stems from a foregone affliction that resulted in an extreme feeling of deprivation. Many controlling people can probably pinpoint a time in their lives when it was felt that control was taken away from them. The only time controlling people feel secure inside is when they behave according to their righteous inner laws. These inner laws do have their benefits in that they make a person self-motivated, focused and ambitious. However, exerting these inner laws on a spouse
inevitably leads to conflict and resentment.
Identification of a domineering personality in marriage counseling
A domineering person tends to have an overpowering interpersonal behaviour but there are other attributes associated with this personality type. Two such attributes are extreme dynamism and impulsiveness, which results in a personality that thrives under pressure and enjoys overcoming obstacles. Domineering people tend to be impatient and tend to have an unreasonable expectation in achieving result, however this need to achieve result at almost any cost also means they can often be aggressive in their behavior towards other people. Although an overpowering personality has its benefits, from an interpersonal perspective it can be highly stifling and crushing to the autonomy of others. Impatience, aggressiveness and a need to control combined with an inherent temperament of paranoia, makes for a problematic and volatile relationship.
How marriage counseling manages a domineering personality
Overpowering personality is both a psychological and a physical affliction. A qualified marriage counselor can facilitate all aspects of a marital interaction, which also includes dealing with a domineering spouse. But complications often arise due to the physical repercussions associated with an overpowering personality, which has been shown to be highly addictive in nature. This addiction is caused by the hormonal changes resulting from the Fight-or-Flight instinct. When a person feels
threatened, whether physically or psychologically, the body's Fight-or-Flight mechanism takes over. A repetitive exposure to the Adrenaline produced resulting from these hormonal activities can be highly addictive. It is this addiction that makes the domineering behaviour one of the hardest to control, as the afflictions are both psychological and physical. The need to control one's surroundings must be consciously relinquished in order to overcome a domineering behaviour. The first step to relinquishing control is the recognition that an occasional misfortune in life is inevitable. The second step will be to have faith in a partner to do the right thing. This need to control others often drives a partner to behave rebelliously, openly or otherwise, at every opportunity possible. This rebellion is often both a conscious and a sub-conscious retaliation to addressing the balance of control. It is important for a domineering person to recognise that this desire to control will inevitably
drive a partner away.
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Marriage counseling information designed to help guide couples in choosing a suitable therapist. There are currently a number of different approaches to therapy and as such it is important for a couple to choose the approach that they feel is the suitable.
A marriage counselor is pivotal to the success of the therapy session. Therefore, it becomes vital to choose a suitable therapist. However, the suitability of a therapist goes beyond the mere qualifications and experience of that therapist.
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