Marriage counseling considers influencing a partner as the ability to sway the partner's thoughts or actions to achieve a specific outcome. However, care must be taken to avoid manipulation. A marriage counselor will only encourage the use of Influencing techniques as a substitute for a domineering behavior.
Domineering behaviours in marriage counseling sessions are discouraged and the marriage counselor will attempt the facilitation of consent through positive Influencing techniques. These Influencing techniques are also adaptable to the daily lives of any domineering individual.
Influencing in marriage counseling
A pre-requisite for the Influencing technique to be effective is the creation of an atmosphere of empathy and receptiveness between two individuals. This is usually achieved by creating the conditions and scenarios that encourage receptiveness, which can range from a
simple exchange of pleasantry to performing a favourable deed. The reason for this is that human beings are far more likely to be amenable towards those perceived as agreeable. Influencing a person must therefore be planned in advance, it must also be approached with care as not to be seen pretentious in an attempt to be agreeable. This will only result in suspicion and loss of creditability. Once the pre-requisite conditions are set then the next step is to remove any inherent fears associated with a proposed change. One such fear is the fear of being taken advantage of. People in general are far more likely to conform if mutual benefits are also demonstrated. Another fear is that of the unknown. It is instinctive to any creature to be apprehensive of the unknown. It is therefore advisable to provide reassurance
by demonstrating how other people have also benefited from what is being suggested. In the case of couples where one spouse is trying to influence another, it is advisable to use examples involving relatives and immediate families. Reverse psychology can also be applied to motivate a person to accept a proposed change. The negative consequences of no-action can also be used as a motivator to accepting the change. These consequences must be strong enough to outweigh the fear of change. Influencing someone should be seen as a progressive process. As such, if the purpose of influencing is likely to result in a substantial change then it is advisable that the changes be introduced gradually to allow time to adapt and adjust. This is because people in general are far more responsive to smaller gradual changes than a large one. It is important to resist the temptation of "force" as a persuasive means of influencing a person.
A domineering behaviour will ultimately result in conflict and arguments.
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Marriage counseling information designed to help guide couples in choosing a suitable therapist. There are currently a number of different approaches to therapy and as such it is important for a couple to choose the approach that they feel is the suitable.
A marriage counselor is pivotal to the success of the therapy session. Therefore, it becomes vital to choose a suitable therapist. However, the suitability of a therapist goes beyond the mere qualifications and experience of that therapist.
Infidelity is one of the most painful experiences any couple can face in a relationship. An experienced therapist is not only able to help with the facilitation of recovery, but also provide guidance that could minimize the chances of it recurring again.
Compatibility Test is used to determine the behavioural interaction between two individuals. In therapy, this test is sometimes used to determine the root cause of behavioral disputes between couples. The advantage of this approach is that a therapist can also provide this as a remote counseling service.
Signs of Infidelity can help expose a relationship betrayal before it gets too involved, therefore improving the chances of recovery. Identifying these signs correctly is vital as any misjudgement can in itself lead to marital disputes and feelings of mistrust.
Recovering from infidelity is not going to be easy, but an experienced therapist can help with overcoming this affliction. It is important to recognise that a person will never forget what has taken place, but it is possible to rebuild the trust and move on.
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